So let us take a moment and think about what we what we could expect of the groom other than turning up on the wedding day and saying “I DO”.
The Groom who is looking to be involved would:
1. Help the bride plan the wedding.
2. Choose your best man, groomsmen and the ushers.
3. Choose what you will wear in conjunction with the bride.
4. Select the wedding rings together and pay for them – taking responsibility for keeping them safe
and giving to the Best man on the day of your wedding.
5. Sort the transport for the day unless the bride has the connections and that is more appropriate.
6. Arrange a honeymoon and pay for it - perhaps you would share this cost.
7. Make a speech at the reception in reply to the bride’s father’s speech and be sure to thank the parents
and guests, and for the gift, and then to finish propose a toast to the attendants.
8. Something really special (if you are up to it) is to send flower’s to the bride’s mother on the day of the
wedding or the day after.
That doesn’t look to onerous does it?
While thinking and researching about getting the men’s wedding attire sorted, I was thinking, it would indeed be a brave man, that went out to hire suits or buy suits, without taking their bride to be with them.
Brides tend to have very strong ideas about what they expect on their wedding day.
Yesterday it was a beautiful wedding and the bridesmaids were in beautiful hot pink dresses and the groomsmen had white shirts and pale pink ties. The groom a pink shirt and brighter pink tie but it did look good on him. The boys made it clear that that pink ties were not their first choice and I knew the bride had strong ideas on what everyone would wear. They are happily married so I am guessing although there were protests I think it wasn’t very strong.
So here are a few tips about the preparation for the wedding day:
1. Consult, and if your bride is a magazine person – look at those magazines for inspiration because
they do have men’s attire in them.
2. Set a budget, and go shopping or hiring.
3. If you are having something special made out of special fabric be sure to have plenty of lead time
to ensure it is ready for the day.
4. Make sure if you are hiring you get the trousers to the right length. To make this happen your
measurements need to be taken and recorded. You don’t want them to long nor to short.
You don’t want the sleeves of your jacket to short so that you see the sleeves of your shirt cuff.
5. The day before the wedding when you pick up suits make sure they fit. A challenge with suits
not fitting on wedding days can make it very stressful.
6. If you have new shoes, always wear them in so on the day you can go all day without getting sore feet.
7. Sometimes brides want to have that wow factor and keep everything a surprise.
I am sure though they will give you a piece of fabric and some guidelines so it all comes
together on the day.
8. Make sure if you are buying a shirt that it is washed and ironed – so the folds are taken out.
9. The rule is to leave the bottom button of your waistcoat undone – why – I’m not sure!!
10. Stick to the rules about wearing suits – not sure what they all are but there are professionals
to guide you.
So now you are ready for your wedding day – I am at the wedding 30 minutes before the wedding starts and I know if the groom’s party is there before me this is a wedding that will run smoothly.
So no stag do’s the night before!!