I was lucky to get a copy of Christine’s book at a time when I really needed it!
When you lose anyone that you were closely connected to it is very painful and grief can take a long time to work its way through. I loved Christine’s introduction in how to get the best out of the book.
“You will almost certainly experience grief at some point in your life.
Grief is painful but there are options, answers and practical advice to help ease the load and get you through to face the future with hope. The aim of this book is to help you to realize that you’re a normal person feeling your way along an unknown path and that there is a way forward. Grief can make it hard to concentrate, so it’s written in a way that’s easy to take in when you’re stressed and tired. Just use what you find helpful as a tool at your disposal.”
The First Steps – Making it through the early stages – covers eating, sleeping, work and activities, health, dealing with other people, support, taking care of you while grieving. Good basic stuff!
Then the book covers the feelings you may experience. These include shock and disbelief, sensitivity, mood swings, panic and anxiety, confusion, guilt, regret, anger, frustration, relief, loneliness, jealousy or envy, pride, gratitude, peace, love, determination.
I didn’t have all these feelings but have experienced many including lack of motivation. Usually, a highly motivated person it has taken me a great deal longer to achieve many things.
Understanding the process includes how long does it take and then coming to terms with new realities. There is no straightforward answer to that question of how long it takes. It tells us grief varies with each grieving person and with each loss.
Comments from the Horse’s Mouth – some typical comments from grieving people, I found a great deal of commonality.
Then it covers more in-depth about Death of a Partner and another section of Death of a Child; Death of a parent – something we all have to eventually deal with.
A section for grieving children because they grieve as well. Children can read this section themselves.
Other areas covered are:
Headline and Sudden Death – Headline Deaths, no goodbyes, being there, disasters.
Suicide – why, what’s left behind, effect on relationships.
Counselling and Depression – depression, helpful suggestions, getting support, about counselling.
Funerals, Burials and Cremation – forms and certificates, funerals, embalming, burial and cremation, answering messages of condolence and acknowledgements.
Legalities, Wills and Family Dynamics – legal duties after death of someone close, family dynamics.
Life and Death and Spiritual support – a message from beyond, believers and non-believers, spiritual support.
Death of a Pet – coping with the death of a pet.
When you have been a carer – feelings that can arise for carers, the red flags of burnout, some causes of burnout, looking after yourself when you’re under stress or pressure
Planning Ahead – practicalities, planning for retirement
How to offer Support – being there, helpful tips for listening, dos and don’ts when offering support.
Taken from the book
“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
love leaves a memory no one can steal”. from a headstone in Ireland.
So I would encourage you to get this book to have available to pick up when you need it.
If I thought my brother (who could do with some help) would have read it I would have shared a copy with him.
I highly recommend it.
Can I suggest you also like Christine's Facebook page - then you have it there if one day you find you need it!
Copies available www.gettingthroughgrief.com