So it was on Monday that I did my funeral service and this is what I put up on my Facebook page.
For the record I don't do funeral services. I only do them for families when they ask. Today I had the honour of delivering a funeral service for this couple - amazing soulmates, Adam and Tammy. I still can't believe that they are not going to be at the next gathering. Tragic deaths - it is not fair! I so want it to be a huge mistake and they got it wrong. I feel so much pain for Adam's Mother and Tammy's parent's Margaret and Ross. I feel for my niece Kate who was a best buddy with Tammy; and I feel for all the family and friends who are grieving and we have all one thing in common, the loss of two special people. I put something special in place and tomorrow I will share it with you as you will all want to do this in the future when you lose a loved one, especially the young. Thanks for giving me the honour to conduct the service today. I am emotionally drained but I will sleep happy in a job well done.
I did put something in place and this is what I told everyone: Yesterday I was invited to present the service and pay tribute to Tammy and Adam - this lovely couple who tragically died in an accident. I had this idea to capture everyone who came along and provide albums for the two families. I called upon Phil at short-notice to deliver and it was very special to get our own photos with Tammy and Adam at the top and a little message at the bottom and our own three photos. Everyone enjoyed Photoshot Kiosk and I am recommending it as a wonderful thing to incorporate in a funeral.
Adam and Tammy were so well loved and respected that the outpouring of grief has been huge.
This is what Adam's workplace said about him:
Monday afternoon our Executive Chef Adam Salter and his wife Tammy passed away following a tragic car accident.
Adam was the first staff member to join the pre-opening team at Rydges Latimer coming back to the family 2 years after heading up the kitchen at Rydges Christchurch pre-quake.
Adam was a driving force in getting the new hotel open and the backbone within the management team that would extend far past the kitchen pass which he ran so well.
He was dedicated to his craft, he was dedicated to his team and past the walls of our hotel he was dedicated to his family and mates. Adam was a rock.
We will miss your infectious smile and parochialism and of course your passion for great food and happy guests. Our fridges will be fuller this Rugby season from you not winning all the beers out of them and the golf course far quieter without you chasing the jacket.
We love you mate.
Our deepest condolences go out to Adam and Tammy's families. Forever in love, rest in peace. xo
After this post their was an outpouring of grief that talked about an amazing man that Adam was and how much everyone admired and respected him. Chris his Best Man did the eulogy at his funeral and he made us laugh and cry as he shared the great times he had shared with this amazing young man.
And Tammy worked at the Commodore Airport Hotel and this is what they said:
We are deeply shocked and saddened to announce the passing of Tammy Salter our breakfast supervisor. Tammy and her husband Adam were both tragically killed in a car accident south of Kaikoura yesterday afternoon. Tammy had been working in Patterson’s restaurant for 9 years as our day shift supervisor. She was always such a pleasure to be around and always had a smile on her face. Nothing ever got her stressed and her positive nature definitely rubbed off on her team mates. Over the years Tammy had made numerous connections with our guests and staff. We are still coming to terms with the loss of Tammy and Adam and our hearts go out to her friends and family. She was a part of our Hotel family and will be deeply missed.
The outpouring of grief talked about the amazing woman Tammy was. How she was always smiling and nothing ever upset her. Tammy had some challenges but she got through them and that was the measure of the person that she was.
It is so sad to be talking about these two in the past tense - they may be gone from the physical world but their spirits and their memories will be with us all forever. If you can be happy about anything it must be that these soulmates left together.
A special message to Margaret, Ross, Reece, Milton and Kate, Hannah, Louise and Adams family and I extend this to everyone else - family and friends we were indeed privileged to have spent time with them and when you need support do reach out as there is so many people grieving with you as these soulmates made a big impression.
RIP Tammy and Adam - together forever - soulmates.