Elimination of stress in weddings is also important. Having a clear plan with a support network of special friends and supportive family is vital to getting to the wedding day in a healthy state. When you have loving people around you, you release more oxytocin. You know that feeling of calmness – that is the love hormone oxytocin.
I have read that researchers believe that social isolation may be one of the big risk factors for human mortality. Those with few social ties could suffer from heart disease, depression and anxiety and that leads to accidents and suicide. Having a friend who listens and shares your pain helps you get through many of life’s challenges!
Recently, I spent time with a dear friend and as much as it was painful, it was also nice to see her and hold her hand before she passed. She was an amazing woman. With tears streaming down my face, my friend, kept telling me to think of the good times. We worked together for many years and we did have some great times and some great memories.
Maintaining friendship can be hard as you get older and life is busy. As we mature we tend to be more selective in who we wish to spend time with. We have also learnt that unless we like the person we are, when we are around them, it might be time to find a new friend.
My daughter has very high expectations of what friendship means. As a caring Mum, I try to encourage her to make friends. I am very aware that she needs some lovely friends to support her in life. My daughter had a Kindergarten friend, Ashley. Ashley and Amelia were great friends and a bonus I loved her, Mum and Dad. They had sleepovers at 4 years of age. Pretty special. Amelia still talks about Ashley from time to time because they left and went to Australia.
My husband has a friend who he went to Kindergarten with. I must say, I think that is very special indeed. Likewise, every now and then I have a wedding couple who have been childhood sweethearts.
So in summary - we need friends and we need to look after our friendships, because that ensures we will be healthier, happier and live longer.